Photo Essay: The Pictures That Give Comfort to Kashmir’s Women

For many of the women whose husbands, sons or fathers have died in clashes over the disputed Kashmir region, photos are all they have left of their loved ones. Photojournalist Aliya Bashir explores the power of a single picture.

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Zoona Begum sitting in her kitchen with the photos of her sons, Manzoor Ahmad and Abdul Qayoom, who were killed by Indian forces in 1994. Aliya Bashir

CHANDERHAMA, Kashmir – On a recent cold morning, Zoona Begum, 55, climbed a small ladder to reach the attic of her one-story house in this small hamlet in north Kashmir. She opened the lid of a large aluminum storage trunk and pulled out two picture frames holding photos of her sons, Manzoor Ahmad and Abdul Qayoom, who were killed by the Indian armed forces in 1994. Both were militants and had joined the fight against Indian rule in Kashmir, which many Kashmiris consider to be a military occupation. According to official figures, the violence in Kashmir and Jammu has claimed 43,000 lives since the clashes began in 1990. Human rights groups say the true death toll is much higher.

Begum says Qayoom, her younger son, loved photos and would often have his taken at a local studio. “He loved to make everyone laugh,” she says. “I don’t know how I am enduring their loss. Their absence has left a void in my heart which can never be filled.”

The photos help. “They fill the emptiness in my home and light up the darkness in my heart,” Begum says. “They bring back to me the memory of my sons, their smile, anger and smell.”

Saleema Jan, 42, holds a photo of her husband, Muhammad Shafi Yatoo, who was killed by the Indian army in 1992. Today, she lives alone with her two sons and a daughter in Karimabad village in south Kashmir’s Pulwama district. “Whenever I feel lonely, I talk to his photograph,” Jan says. “His face never leaves my sight.” (Aliya Bashir)

Keeping photographs of loved ones who were killed during three decades of clashes in Kashmir has become, in the words of Susan Sontag, a “social rite, a defense against anxiety, and a tool of power” against forgetting.

Like Begum, a large number of Kashmiri men, women and children who have gone through similar experiences of loss find solace in photos. They keep them as reminders and proof, as expressions of suffering and testimonies to the injustice they feel, and as symbols of endurance and hope.

Nasreena Pachu, 15, with a photo of her father, Jamal-ud-din Pachu, who was killed in 2003. On the back, she has scribbled, “My Papa! Miss U, Papa!” Pachu is from Ramban, but after her mother remarried, she sent Pachu to an orphanage in Srinagar in 2007. “If my father were alive today, we would have been together,” she says. (Aliya Bashir)

In Dardpora village, in north Kashmir’s Kupwara district, Bano Begum (who is not related to Zoona) looks at the photo of her husband that she has saved on her phone so that “he is always close to me.” Her husband, Salam-ud-din Khatana, was killed in 1996 on the Line of Control (LoC), the borderline that halves the disputed Himalayan territory – one part claimed by Pakistan and the other by India. “This is the picture he took after our marriage. He was very handsome,” says Bano Begum, 40, with a momentary smile.

Bano Begum with the photo of her husband that she keeps on her phone. “I wish I could undo the past and get him back,” she says. (Aliya Bashir)

Kulsum Hilal, 17, has been living in an orphanage in Srinagar since 2005. She doesn’t know when her father was killed. Her mother lives in north Kashmir’s border district of Kupwara with Hilal’s two younger siblings, but can’t afford to support Hilal and her elder brother, so both were sent to orphanages. “I feel very unlucky, for I haven’t seen my father,” she says. She always carries the photograph in her schoolbag. “All I have of him is this photograph and I have grown up with it.”

Kulsum Hilal sitting at her home, an orphanage in Srinagar, with the photo of her father. (Aliya Bashir)

In homes all around Kashmir, these photographs of remembrance are hung on walls, in living rooms and kitchens, and kept as wallpaper and screensavers on mobile phones. But some mothers prefer to keep their photos hidden, in closets, in drawers or, like Zoona Begum, in trunks in the attic. Because if their boys and men can be so quickly taken from them, nothing is safe.

“What if they take away these photos as well? What will I do?” asks Begum. “How can I see my sons then?”

This photo essay was reported with the support of the International Women’s Media Foundation through the Howard G. Buffett Fund for Women Journalists.

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